Some weeds may be pretty, but they will still try to cover and hide the true flowers.
I’m behind on getting this blog out. I typically try to save my Thursdays for writing, but this past week I had writer’s block. I couldn’t make a decision on what I wanted to write about. So yesterday, Saturday, two days behind schedule, I decided to weed a part of my front lawn that has been sorely neglected in hopes that digging into nature would inspire me. And it did.
As I’m sitting on my tush, bucket o’weeds to my left, I found myself apologizing to the pretty weeds for uprooting them. You know the ones – they could actually be mistaken for a true flower and may even have a little bud on them. Then I apologized to God. After all, they may be weeds, but they’re still His creation. Then I heard my Creator speak to me in only the way that He can. He reminded me that the weeds must come up in order for real growth to occur. Just because they’re pretty, it doesn’t mean they’ll help produce the amazing landscape He has planned for my little plot of land.
I thought about this all day. And ouch. This lesson applies to my life as well. And your life. I came to realize that I’ve been allowing the “pretty” things of this world distract me from true growth – in both my career and personal lives. I’ve been unwilling to uproot the things – and people – in my life that appear attractive on the outside but are really weeds at the root. I continued to do a little soul searching, and here’s what I found to be my biggest weeds:
Fear
My son attended an aspiring actor’s training event a few weeks ago in Los Angeles. One session was led by casting director, Patrick Baca, who said that the opposite of love is fear. Bam! The ac7 Group’s first core value is Love, and here I am allowing fear to take control of my business. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of criticism and ridicule. How can I teach on the importance of love and passion for your career when I myself have allowed its opposite – fear - to temporarily take charge?
You may be asking, “How can fear be pretty?” Fear can mask itself and have you believing you’re just being cautious, realistic, and logical – all “pretty” things in much of Corporate America. But fear is subjective and dependent on the individual’s perception of the situation at-hand. What may cause one person fear could cause another to laugh. So, I’m going to change my perception. I’m going back to my first core value of Love. That’s the only way to weed out the fear.
Doubt
I over-analyze everything. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. I actually find this aspect of my personality quite annoying because I could probably get so much more accomplished if I stopped putting every piece of data on an Excel spreadsheet. Overanalyzing often results in doubt because while data helps us make decisions, there is always going to be a final decision made based on intuition and/or experience. I often doubt my intuition and the lessons learned from experience. I have no idea why because I can’t really remember one instance where my “gut feeling” was wrong.
Fear and doubt really go hand-in-hand. So many people get “stuck” in their careers because of fear and doubt. They fear the unknown and doubt their ability to overcome the odds. They doubt themselves, their skills, their persistence, and their degree of influence – just to name a few areas people succumb to doubt. To overcome this, I’ve got to start relying on my instincts, my gut feelings, my intuition, and the whispers from God. I’m shutting down my pretty Excel spreadsheets and weeding out doubt.
Naysayers
I have an amazing crew of supporters. I’ve spent over a decade in the staffing industry and have built a ridiculously large network of like-minded professionals, many whom have crossed the line to my personal network. Yet I still have people in my life that mean well but have said things to help spark that fear and doubt I just spoke about. They say they think I have what it takes to succeed, that I’m a go-getter, an entrepreneur minded- professional with tenacity, but they will then follow-up with a comment such as, “Maybe you should go back to what you were doing before – just for a bit,” or, “I’m not sure people will want your services when they can just read stuff online.” Yep, bring on the fear and doubt.
I’ve learned to separate some of these folks from my personal and career lives. Some are wonderful friends who just want the best for me and feel they are helping; so, I don’t want to necessarily weed them out of my life completely. Just out of my career life. Some folks I just need to politely say good-bye to altogether. They were a part of my life for a season, and that season has passed. Maybe we’ll reconnect in another season…but not this one.
If you’ve been reading my blogs for a while now, you know that I try to stick to brief, easy-to-read ways to improve your career life or job search process. So why am I getting so personal in this blog? Because anything else from me this week would have just been another weed-like blog clogging up your email or social media news feed.
So, I hope this article served you, you Gardening Rock Star you. My hope for you is to weed out your fears, doubts, and naysayers to enjoy an amazing, vibrant, and blossoming career.
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Allison Charriez brings over 10 years of experience successfully matching hundreds of people with Fortune 100 companies. Allison is a high-energy leader, coach, mentor, and blogger with impressive success in career development and recruitment strategy. You can email Allison directly at allison@theac7group.com.
If you found this tip helpful, please share it with your friends, family, and colleagues.
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I’m behind on getting this blog out. I typically try to save my Thursdays for writing, but this past week I had writer’s block. I couldn’t make a decision on what I wanted to write about. So yesterday, Saturday, two days behind schedule, I decided to weed a part of my front lawn that has been sorely neglected in hopes that digging into nature would inspire me. And it did.
As I’m sitting on my tush, bucket o’weeds to my left, I found myself apologizing to the pretty weeds for uprooting them. You know the ones – they could actually be mistaken for a true flower and may even have a little bud on them. Then I apologized to God. After all, they may be weeds, but they’re still His creation. Then I heard my Creator speak to me in only the way that He can. He reminded me that the weeds must come up in order for real growth to occur. Just because they’re pretty, it doesn’t mean they’ll help produce the amazing landscape He has planned for my little plot of land.
I thought about this all day. And ouch. This lesson applies to my life as well. And your life. I came to realize that I’ve been allowing the “pretty” things of this world distract me from true growth – in both my career and personal lives. I’ve been unwilling to uproot the things – and people – in my life that appear attractive on the outside but are really weeds at the root. I continued to do a little soul searching, and here’s what I found to be my biggest weeds:
Fear
My son attended an aspiring actor’s training event a few weeks ago in Los Angeles. One session was led by casting director, Patrick Baca, who said that the opposite of love is fear. Bam! The ac7 Group’s first core value is Love, and here I am allowing fear to take control of my business. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of criticism and ridicule. How can I teach on the importance of love and passion for your career when I myself have allowed its opposite – fear - to temporarily take charge?
You may be asking, “How can fear be pretty?” Fear can mask itself and have you believing you’re just being cautious, realistic, and logical – all “pretty” things in much of Corporate America. But fear is subjective and dependent on the individual’s perception of the situation at-hand. What may cause one person fear could cause another to laugh. So, I’m going to change my perception. I’m going back to my first core value of Love. That’s the only way to weed out the fear.
Doubt
I over-analyze everything. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. I actually find this aspect of my personality quite annoying because I could probably get so much more accomplished if I stopped putting every piece of data on an Excel spreadsheet. Overanalyzing often results in doubt because while data helps us make decisions, there is always going to be a final decision made based on intuition and/or experience. I often doubt my intuition and the lessons learned from experience. I have no idea why because I can’t really remember one instance where my “gut feeling” was wrong.
Fear and doubt really go hand-in-hand. So many people get “stuck” in their careers because of fear and doubt. They fear the unknown and doubt their ability to overcome the odds. They doubt themselves, their skills, their persistence, and their degree of influence – just to name a few areas people succumb to doubt. To overcome this, I’ve got to start relying on my instincts, my gut feelings, my intuition, and the whispers from God. I’m shutting down my pretty Excel spreadsheets and weeding out doubt.
Naysayers
I have an amazing crew of supporters. I’ve spent over a decade in the staffing industry and have built a ridiculously large network of like-minded professionals, many whom have crossed the line to my personal network. Yet I still have people in my life that mean well but have said things to help spark that fear and doubt I just spoke about. They say they think I have what it takes to succeed, that I’m a go-getter, an entrepreneur minded- professional with tenacity, but they will then follow-up with a comment such as, “Maybe you should go back to what you were doing before – just for a bit,” or, “I’m not sure people will want your services when they can just read stuff online.” Yep, bring on the fear and doubt.
I’ve learned to separate some of these folks from my personal and career lives. Some are wonderful friends who just want the best for me and feel they are helping; so, I don’t want to necessarily weed them out of my life completely. Just out of my career life. Some folks I just need to politely say good-bye to altogether. They were a part of my life for a season, and that season has passed. Maybe we’ll reconnect in another season…but not this one.
If you’ve been reading my blogs for a while now, you know that I try to stick to brief, easy-to-read ways to improve your career life or job search process. So why am I getting so personal in this blog? Because anything else from me this week would have just been another weed-like blog clogging up your email or social media news feed.
So, I hope this article served you, you Gardening Rock Star you. My hope for you is to weed out your fears, doubts, and naysayers to enjoy an amazing, vibrant, and blossoming career.
Want more career success tips? Click here to receive a new tip per week straight to your inbox.
Allison Charriez brings over 10 years of experience successfully matching hundreds of people with Fortune 100 companies. Allison is a high-energy leader, coach, mentor, and blogger with impressive success in career development and recruitment strategy. You can email Allison directly at allison@theac7group.com.
If you found this tip helpful, please share it with your friends, family, and colleagues.
Visit theac7group.com for more information on career advancement coaching.
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